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Let’s Get FAT!

Pete Huryk

I’m passionate about languages! They’re an agreement that we use to express ourselves to other people. They can stir emotions and ignite contemplation. In our daily lives, it’s easy to overlook the fact that many of the words we casually use have been around hundreds or even thousands of years. These words evolve, meanings shift, and their original connections can get obscured. This realization struck me during my morning run while engrossed in a podcast. The host mentioned a “fatal error” made by a business, and my mind fixated on the word “fatal,” leading me down a linguistic rabbit hole.

Within this word exploration, I stumbled upon five words that resonated: fate, fatigue, faith, fathom, and father. This intriguing word salad prompted me to reflect on the intricate processes we all navigate in life.

Every aspiration, project, vocation, or calling begins with a seed—the FATher. It’s the inception, the spark of an idea that ignites the journey. Once we embark, we must have FAiTh, for it serves as the relentless fuel propelling us forward—a belief in the unseen when evidence is scarce. Along this path, we encounter FATigue—the weariness inherent in the exhaustive effort required to bring our dreams to fruition.

Then there’s FATe—an element that appears preordained, unstoppable, simply meant to be. Fathom enters the scene, not just as a unit of measurement but as the quest for understanding, a vital component of our journey. Finally, we arrive at the word that initiated this linguistic adventure—FATal.

Delving into the origins of “FATal,” I discovered that in the late 14th century, it meant “decreed by fate.” It seems this word took a pessimistic turn over time, becoming synonymous with the one thing most deemed destined by fate—tragedy.

But what does all of this linguistic exploration mean for you and me?

We should all aspire to get FAT. Plant the seeds of our boldest dreams. Nurture them with unwavering FAiTh in their realization. Be prepared for the FATigue that will accompany the hard work. Acknowledge the hand of FATe, that which seems preordained. Seek to fathom the depths of understanding through your journey. And, whether for better or worse, don’t shy away from the FAtal aspects of life—those that feel fated.

Ultimately, we all reach an end, but if we’re willing to get FAT, perhaps our journey’s conclusion will align with our deepest desires. So, my message to you is simple: Go out there and get FAT today. Embrace the inception, the faith, the fatigue, the fate, the understanding, and even the seemingly fated, for they all play a part in our extraordinary journey.

Get started on your FAT today!

Pete

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Defying Gravity and Fear

Pete Huryk

My mother is an extraordinary cook. Her culinary creations are celebrated by both family and friends. Her cookies are legendary, her macaroni and cheese is simply sensational, and I’ve been told her apple pie is second to none. I don’t like apple pie, so I can’t say! I want to begin by showering her with praise because, despite her remarkable culinary skills, my mom has a bit of a reputation for being, well, a bit clumsy. She has an uncanny ability to attract accidents. In fact, she once managed to break her ankle without even taking a tumble. Gravity and my mother aren’t exactly best friends – it’s a force that occasionally wreaks havoc in her life.

Gravity, in its essence, is a force that pulls us downward, but in a more profound sense, it’s a force that challenges us to lift ourselves up. While gravity might seem like an overwhelming adversary, it’s actually a relatively modest resistance that we face daily. As a species, we’ve developed various ways to overcome this force, from building airplanes to performing breathtaking acrobatics. Our problem today isn’t that we can’t conquer resistance; it’s that we rarely encounter enough of it.

In our modern world, daily challenges often amount to little more than minor irritations. With such minimal resistance against us, we should be able to soar to great heights, almost defying gravity itself. Yet, we don’t. The reason is quite simple: we’re afraid. Afraid of failure, afraid of taking off only to fall, afraid of the possibility that someone might witness our mishaps and laugh.

Gravity is a force of nature, a constant that we cannot control or eliminate. We didn’t create it, but we’ve found ways to work around it. Why, then, can’t we do the same with fear? Unlike gravity, fear is a construct of our minds, something we create. So, circumventing it or banishing it entirely is well within our reach. We have the capacity to fashion our own wings and take flight, free from the shackles of fear that hold us down.

So where are you tied to the ground but you should soaring? Is a real obstacle holding you down or just your fear of taking action? Either way there is bound to be a way around it! It’s up to you to find or stay pinned to the ground. More than anything, the choice is yours. Face fear or live under its thumb!

Pete

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The Game of Now

Pete Huryk

In a nation that’s fervently obsessed with sports, where stadiums are revered and athletes command colossal salaries, we’re often reminded of our deep-rooted passion for competition. Championships and winning seasons are celebrated with grandeur, showcasing our reverence for results. Yet, amidst this overwhelming obsession with competition and achievement, we frequently overlook the most meaningful game of all.

The Unseen Game: What’s the game we often disregard? It’s the game of NOW. This game doesn’t have a stadium, a scoreboard, or a roaring crowd. It’s an intangible, relentless contest played out in the moments of our lives. Each moment can be won or lost, and NOW is the only game that truly matters. The opponents are countless, but we’ll name a few: laziness, procrastination, fear, indifference, foolishness, and the ever-alluring promise of “later.”

Conquering NOW: NOW isn’t a game you can afford to lose. It’s a game where you call the shots, set the rules, and choose your opponents. In essence, it’s a rigged game if you decide to seize control of it.

The Decision: Today, right now, make a decision. Ask yourself, “How do I win this moment?” Challenge yourself to string together a series of winning moments in life. Have you been losing without even realizing it? Life, in so many ways, resembles a game. And in this game, remember—you’re not just a player; you’re the referee and the scorekeeper. Most importantly, don’t forget to lace up and start playing NOW!

Conclusion: In a nation that worships the competitive spirit, let’s not overlook the most crucial competition of all—life itself. The game of NOW is a constant, ever-present challenge. It’s a contest where victory is determined by your choices, actions, and mindset. As you step into the arena of each moment, remember that you hold the power to emerge victorious. So, embrace the game, define your rules, and make every moment a winning one. Your life is the ultimate battleground—play it skillfully and cherish every victory along the way.

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Train Wreck or Car Wreck?

Pete Huryk

Given the choice, would you prefer to be involved in a train wreck or a car wreck? It’s a question I’ve posed to friends and acquaintances, and the responses vary. However, more often than not, someone will respond with, “I don’t want either.” In my view, that’s the wisest answer. Opting to avoid experiencing trauma and pain is a sound and straightforward decision, especially when we consider the physical aspects of such accidents. While it’s impossible to directly compare train wrecks and car wrecks, there are some general differences to consider: train wrecks are typically more public and involve a larger number of people, while car wrecks tend to be less public and affect fewer individuals.

In our reality TV-saturated world, we encounter numerous examples of human “train wrecks.” It seems we’re almost obsessed with finding individuals who appear to be at the lowest point of humanity. It’s a troubling reality that many in the public seem to crave witnessing those who are “worse” off than they are. Depending on personal preferences, one can watch the unfortunate lives of teenage mothers, millionaire’s wives, aspiring youth beauty queens, young cheerleaders, and the list goes on. After just half an hour of watching, it’s easy to feel vastly superior to the person at the center of that “train wreck” of a life.

The issue arises when people who are watching may actually be living a “car wreck” of a life but feel better by comparison. Their life may not be as terrible or as publicly scrutinized as the “train wreck” on the screen. Instead of striving to live the best life possible, we often seem determined to find examples of those who are worse off than us. This comparative mindset serves us little good, especially when those we are comparing ourselves to have set the bar so low.

This tendency isn’t limited to the world of reality television; it extends to the classroom as well. Have you ever felt disappointed about the grade you received on a quiz or test, only to feel better when you notice your neighbor received a lower score? Instead of measuring our potential, we often measure ourselves against what makes us feel comfortable in our current situation. This strategy is unwise, as it leads us to settle for less than our true potential.

So, if you find that your life is in disarray, don’t seek solace in comparing yourself to someone with a worse life. Instead, gather the pieces, tend to your wounds, and get back on the road to self-improvement.

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Embracing Failure!

Pete Huryk

Nobody welcomes failure with open arms. It often feels like that “not-so-attractive” girl who’s had a crush on you since second grade. Imagine you’re at the school dance, and she’s the only one who asks you for a slow dance. What would you do? Reject her, hoping that a more attractive partner will come along? Well, not quite. You’d dance.

  1. Learning through Failure: The first step in embracing failure is recognizing that it’s not the end of the world. Just like that not-so-attractive girl, failure has something to offer, too. It’s a chance to learn and grow. Failure teaches us valuable lessons that success often can’t. Each misstep provides an opportunity to refine our skills and strategies.
  2. Building Resilience: Dancing with failure builds resilience. Rejecting her might seem like the easy way out, but it won’t make you stronger or more experienced. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, and it’s a trait highly valued in both personal and professional life. The more you face failure, the more resilient you become.
  3. Embracing Imperfection: Nobody is perfect, and nothing starts off that way either. Ideal opportunities are often the result of many imperfect attempts. By dancing with failure, you acknowledge that growth is a process, and perfection is rarely the starting point. It’s the imperfect steps that eventually lead to something great.
  4. Preparing for Ideal: When you learn to dance with failure, you’re not just settling. Instead, you’re preparing yourself for when the ideal opportunity finally arrives. By then, you’ll have honed your skills, developed resilience, and embraced the imperfections of the journey. You’ll be ready to seize the moment.
  5. Overcoming Fear: Fear of failure can be paralyzing. But when you’re willing to dance with failure, you diminish that fear. You understand that failure is just a temporary setback, not a permanent label. This newfound courage can help you take risks and pursue your goals more boldly.
  6. A Humble Perspective: Dancing with failure also keeps you grounded and humble. It reminds you that success is not always guaranteed and that setbacks are a part of life. This humility can make you more approachable and relatable to others, enhancing your relationships and leadership qualities.

So, next time failure extends her hand, don’t hesitate to dance. It might just be your ticket to a brighter future.

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Same Old, Same Old

Pete Huryk

It’s easy to get fed up with the “same old, same old.” The monotony of repetitive activities can eat away at you. Until access to the tried and true is no longer available. Lamenting that which you have is probably not the best strategy for fulfillment. No doubt, strive for new. Go for better! But don’t discount now because you’re blind to its beauty. The same old is neither the same nor is it old.

It’s now!

Pete

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Last-ditch Effort

Pete Huryk

When I think of this phrase, it sparks a vision of the scene from the movie “Stand By Me” where Vern is searching for his pennies. Each time that he plunges his shovel into the ground, I’m sure that he had the hope that it would be the “last-ditch.” There is also a sense of desperation that comes with that effort.

It’s hard to know when you’ll hit “pay dirt.” There are so many factors that come into play regarding success that it’s almost impossible to predict. I suppose one of the keys is to keep believing. Supposedly Winston Churchill is quoted as saying “success is moving from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm.” It’s a great thought but difficult to pull off. Each ditch that is dug takes sweat and effort. Staying equally enthusiastic is difficult.

I suppose that’s the exact point. Success is not an automatic thing and it requires the energy of enthusiasm. So hoping, believing and even pretending that the next ditch will be the “last ditch” is required to muster adequate enthusiasm. Our ancestors must have had it because we are still here. Therefore, it’s within us all to make that effort.

Keeping digging!

Pete

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It’s a Cheap Trick!

Pete Huryk

There are only a handful of songs that I remember exactly when and where I heard them. “Iris” by Goo Goo Dolls is the most memorable but “I want you to want me” by Cheap Trick is a close second. I was at a pizzeria in Michigan while visiting my ex girlfriend in the summer between high school and college. It’s actually surprising that I’d never heard it before! The tune and lyrics are so catchy with the repetition of want, need and beg.

The world often doesn’t work the way that we’d like. In the minds of many, people should give us what we want. This is especially prominent with kids. They want what they want and can’t understand why they can’t get it… NOW! But the truth of the matter is that a smart adult who truly cares gives them what they need. We all need those people in our lives. The ones who do not simply give in to our temporary desires but can see a better future beyond the moment. The needs that we may not even realize that we have are the focus of their efforts.

So realizing that the tune may not work, the message is clear. I’m begging you to want people in your life who give you what you need rather than what you want or beg for! Maybe even make that person yourself. If you could pull that off, it would be a grand and not so cheap trick.

I want you to need you!

Pete

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The Early Word Gets the Birm

Pete Huryk

Sometimes we’re so close! Everything is almost in place. Yet we fall short and it’s almost more disappointing than if we weren’t even close. The proximity to success hurts because we can almost taste it. Yet it eludes us.

The idea of not giving up is easy to say and not as easy to do. Our brain finds the chinks in our armor easily and recent “failure” is an easy one to point out. Although it may seem sinister in some ways, our minds are just trying to protect us from pain: real or perceived.

At these moments, it’s time to put your hands firmly back on the wheel. Your brain may be trying to protect you but it’s undercutting your success at the same time. The only way to get to that goal is forget about the small shortcomings and keep at it. Eventually, all foes fall to persistent action! It’s life’s game of chicken! And maybe that’s the bird that we need to be focused on!

Rise and shine! The cock is crowing!

Pete

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You Don’t Need…

Pete Huryk

You don’t need me or anyone else to tell you! You already know.

  • What needs to be done.
  • Who really has your back.
  • Who is probably going to let you down.
  • What you should give up.
  • What you should start.
  • What you should quit doing.
  • What price you’re willing to pay for it.

And so many other things! It’s not about the information because you already know. It’s getting past all of the excuse long enough to see things clearly and live into it. More information, validation, motivation, cooperation or any other “-ation” isn’t really the key. You just need to decide to do what you know.

Go!

Pete