It’s odd the way that we think of things. Often an effective story is a much better tool for creating change than the actual 100% truth. I’ve run up the “Rocky Steps” in Philadelphia well over a dozen times. Each time I felt a sense of accomplishment and kinship with Rocky. The truth is of course that Rocky Balboa never truly existed and in that moment I’m play acting much like Stallone was in the 1970’s. Regardless of those facts, the story gets me to where I need to go more effectively. So my explanation below is not the 100% gospel truth but it is rather an effective way to exercise change.
Each moment of your life is like a Post It note. The difference between the moments is how much of the “glue” that you put onto it. Most moments are just paper with absolutely no glue whatsoever. They don’t stick and quickly blow away in the wind of daily life. This may seem sad to some but it is a necessity. Your brain would be overwhelmed if it had to remember every moment. So what is the glue? The glue is emotion. Feelings are the things that make memories “sticky”. The more emotionally charged a moment is, the more likely that it is going to stick.
This is useful information because if you truly want to fashion the life that you want, you need to be deliberate about making particular moments stick. Being able to manage your mind and emotion becomes an exercise in re-scripting your life. If you don’t give an emotional charge to the things that you’d rather not have, then they will fade. In the opposite direction, if you don’t truly feel or even celebrate the good moments, they’ll also fade. So the creation of the life that you want comes down to how sticky you make certain moments. You are the “Glue Master” and you can mindlessly slather it on. OR you can choose to make the good stuff stick.
Have a great day people!