It’s odd the way that we think of things. Often an effective story is a much better tool for creating change than the actual 100% truth. I’ve run up the “Rocky Steps” in Philadelphia well over a dozen times. Each time I felt a sense of accomplishment and kinship with Rocky. The truth is of course that Rocky Balboa never truly existed and in that moment I’m play acting much like Stallone was in the 1970’s. Regardless of those facts, the story gets me to where I need to go more effectively. So my explanation below is not the 100% gospel truth but it is rather an effective way to exercise change.
Each moment of your life is like a Post It note. The difference between the moments is how much of the “glue” that you put onto it. Most moments are just paper with absolutely no glue whatsoever. They don’t stick and quickly blow away in the wind of daily life. This may seem sad to some but it is a necessity. Your brain would be overwhelmed if it had to remember every moment. So what is the glue? The glue is emotion. Feelings are the things that make memories “sticky”. The more emotionally charged a moment is, the more likely that it is going to stick.
This is useful information because if you truly want to fashion the life that you want, you need to be deliberate about making particular moments stick. Being able to manage your mind and emotion becomes an exercise in re-scripting your life. If you don’t give an emotional charge to the things that you’d rather not have, then they will fade. In the opposite direction, if you don’t truly feel or even celebrate the good moments, they’ll also fade. So the creation of the life that you want comes down to how sticky you make certain moments. You are the “Glue Master” and you can mindlessly slather it on. OR you can choose to make the good stuff stick.
Have a great day people!
Pete
Geometry was probably one of the easiest classes for me in high school. Despite its relative ease, I had trouble staying engaged with it. I found it tedious to give all of the reasons why something was true. It was usually pretty obvious whether a problem was going to withstand the scrutiny of the different theorems that we were learning at the time. So it seemed like a relative waste to my teenage self to write out all of the steps in proving or disproving a problem. Especially when the answers (to the odd problems usually) were in the back of the book.
In this episode, Peter Loge and I have a wide-ranging conversation on soccer’s many uses as a metaphor. Peter is the author of “Soccer Thinking for Management Success.” Throughout the book, he discusses several different ways that soccer overlaps with management concepts. Check out his work at 
Cautionary tales like “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” seem to be less prevalent than in the past. Perhaps that is just my perception or my own implementation of life lessons to my kids. I remember exactly who told me this story and for what reason. It had the desired effect. In third grade, I would frequently “not feel well” in order to be sent down to the nurse’s office. Once my visits became frequent enough, the nurse recounted the story of the boy who cried wolf. My visits to her office became more legitimate.
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