As a soccer coach, I will often use games in practice to work on different skills. A game of keep-away with the number of passes being the objective is a way to work on possession. The key to success is that everyone understands what the game is and how to keep score. In your life it is important to understand what games your are playing and are you keeping score in a way that allows for you to win some times.
As you go through your daily life, it is important to first pay attention to the “games” that you are playing. There are literally millions of “games” that the human race are playing. You have chosen to engage in some and ignore others. For example, you might be really invested in the “make my parents proud” game or the “be attractive to the opposite sex” game. Depending on which game you’ve decided to make important, you’ll act very differently. I am not going to moralize on which games are more important. The only thing that I would suggest is that you are aware of the games that you’ve made important and if they’ll help get you where you want to go.
Now that you are sure of the games you want to play, how do you keep score? Be sure to line your game up with a score that is appropriate and attainable. If your game is “helping other people” but you keep score by how much money you make, you might need to reevaluate. The game and the score are not directly related, so you might be really good at the game but feel like failure.
The other thing to be wary of is making the goal unattainable for you. If your game is “being fit” but you keep score by a ridiculous set of criteria including: 10% body fat, huge lifting numbers or extremely low running times, you may want to revamp. Humans thrive on progress. If your goal and the way to score are the same thing, it decreases your chances for success. So small benchmarks can make your possibility for success much better.
What game are you playing and how do you keep score? Answer these two questions. Perhaps you can give yourself a better chance of winning the games that you actually want to play. Also you might be able to quit some games that you didn’t realize you were playing.