Fear, one of our most basic emotional states, has served us through the millennia to keep us alive. Few of us are in daily peril from the elements or predators anymore. So our fear mechanism has little real cause for use. So we sometimes indulge the fear mechanism in very benign circumstances. Although emotions are not perfectly quantifiable, I would suggest that we take some time to truly assess our fears and their intensity. Where would most of our fears of today rate on the Fearometer?
Fears are very personal. However when I think through history and all of the possible situations that could cause a fear level of TEN, being a soldier on a boat about to storm the beach of Normandy is always at the top of the list. Waiting for a door to open to almost certain death is something that I’m not sure that I could handle. By comparison, my daily fears seem extremely small and petty.
So where do your fears rank? Is talking to that special person and asking them out really a TEN? Or is it a FIVE that you’ve turned into a TEN? Since most of our fears are societal and not natural, inflation is something that is bound to happen. We make things bigger and scarier in order to protect ourselves. But from what? A moment of discomfort? The truth? In the end you need to decide if your Fearometer is working well for you or is it paralyzing you?
Regret is momentary pain that you have chosen to make permanent.