SoccerLifeBalance

What I Do…. Is NOT Care

emily 60608 010Often  the most important things are hiding in plain sight.  We cannot see them because we’re so busy looking at things that we’ve been told are important or think that we value.  A deeper inspection usually reveals that we’ve overlooked the most crucial things in the name of the most frivolous.  It’s not particularly our fault as our brains were hardwired to concentrate on the urgent and short term because the long term was not guaranteed.  Also there are some things that we look past completely because of the fact that they are so pervasive.  One of my favorite questions to ask during presentations is “what is the most important thing that you’re going to do today?”  I get a  variety of answers depending on the crowd but the answer should be the same for everyone: breathe!  The answer is so obvious and yet almost everyone misses it because it’s overlooked.  My work at the moment is at a tenuous place where I am trying to balance that which I know is most important and what people actually see.  So for now I am going to continue to do what I believe is right… NOT CARE!

I’ve decided to intertwine two of my greatest passions into one because in my eyes they fit so perfectly together.  The most popular sport in the world (soccer) and the most important skill for doing anything in life (self-belief) are the twin targets that I’ve set my sights on.  The reason being that it is important to leverage people’s behavior and soccer has motivated millions of people to shell out big money to have someone teach their child how to kick a ball more effectively.  The reverse of that situation is that self-belief is extremely low in our younger generation because they have largely been robbed of the experience of self-discovery.  Their activities have been planned for them since birth.  Failure has been removed from their lives in order to protect them.  And they have largely been taught that they are not as good as the people that they see on the screen of the super computer in their pocket.  So what am I going to do about it… NOT CARE!

  • I’m not going to care about how many goals you score this season but rather the number of times that you keep working in a tough session.
  • I’m not going to care about the number of followers you have on Instagram but rather your ability to lead one person (you).
  • I’m not going to care that you didn’t get a starting position on the team but rather the ways that you control those types of outcomes in your life through your choices.
  • I’m not going to care about your desire to get recruited by the college of your choice but rather recruit the resources within you to make you an irresistible candidate.

At this point, you probably get the picture.  I’m more concerned with the root than the fruit because I know that they’re so completely dependent upon one another.  Focusing on the process at the most basic level may not produce the exact result that you’re looking for.  It will however produce a person that is worth believing in and that’s what I care about!

Pete

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